Time to Transform Your Meetings #1

What if the focus of this podcast were: How to make your meetings amazing again! (or for the first time?)

…the most important thing that every leader should be asking: What is at the heart of the matter? (purpose) … Why should this meeting even happen?

By Olivia Bretzman and Craig Neal 


We love Dan Pink, HOWEVER,...

In “Pinkcast 3.06, This is how to make your meetings less awful” Dan Pink invites author Steven Rogelberg to offer his philosophy on how to create better meetings in three simple steps “Separation” “Standing” “Shrink”.

We respectfully beg to differ... What if the focus of this podcast were: How to make your meetings amazing again! (or for the first time?)

Dan and Steven start with the premise that meetings suck, and as Pink stated, “I hate meetings!” OK, but why? If there are 55 mIllion meetings per day in the US alone and so many of us spend our lives in meetings, how ‘bout we focus on creating meetings that are fun, productive and transformative from the get-go?   

They offer 3 good techniques for consideration, but interestingly enough, none consider the most important thing that every leader should be asking: What is at the heart of the matter? What is the purpose of the meeting or gathering? Why should this meeting even happen?

We invite you to consider a different kind of leadership: one that “designs” for engagement, and thinks about all the steps to aligned, committed action.

In our book, The Art of Convening we offer 9 Steps to authentic engagement in meetings, gatherings and even conversations. Here are some key questions that could move your meetings from resignation to total commitment.  

  1. Start with Purpose: what’s at the heart of the matter for the meeting? for you as a leader?

  2. What is your intent as the convener of the meeting?

  3. Who is coming and what’s in for them?

  4. What are the agreed upon norms and protocols?

  5. How is everyone’s voice heard and respected?

  6. Have you created an atmosphere of trust and safety to speak the truth?

  7. What’s new that has been created that can be harvested?

  8. Is everyone committed to a common way forward?

One idea that stands out to us is the shrinking technique: placing pressure on one’s team to get a project done. In our pressure-filled society, the last thing a leader should try to create for their colleagues is unneeded stress. Design to create the conditions for aligned and committed action. Ideas flow, actions and commitment happen naturally.

Your meeting might take 48 minutes or 60 minutes or less--the intent and design tell what is REALLY needed for all to participate and contribute, not an artificial construct manipulated or applied top-down.

We know Dan and Steven were playing with some new ideas and ways to rethink the dreaded meeting, but we think we have a better idea. Thanks Daniel for the opportunity to get our design “juices” going and share.

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Connectivity in a Technological Age: A Matter of Purpose and Power

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The phrase “actions speak louder than words” guides human interaction in the real world. Virtually, our actions and words combine. … efforts within any virtual sphere should be held with the same reverence as a real-world interaction.

By Olivia Bretzman with Patricia Neal 

Authenticity and compassion and lie at the core of any exceptional, genuine interaction. One of the greatest deliberations of our increasingly technological society stands at the intersection between the connectivity or disconnectivity of human contact, which directly challenges these values.   In a society controlled by social media and technology, many question whether technology promotes or ruins the authentic relationships that keep a society breeding honesty and respect. Disconnection may feel strong due to the lack of interpersonal contact between humans; however, there are ways to connect in a detached state.  This connection lies deep in the intentions behind our actions on social media and other platforms. While many live on the internet behind a façade of “the good life” with the purpose of climbing a social or political later ladder, there are positive outcomes that social media and connectivity facilitate when combined with purpose and intention. 

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USB fingers…

In life, focus on purpose and mindfulness adds dimension and balance to our daily lives.  Our purpose clearly states what we came to do, prove, or change. It also answers the question of how to serve others while doing using our gifts and values.  Many posts on social media come from a background of passive aggression, ego-boosts, or simply does not have any meaningful intention. Disconnection flares when the intention is skewed due to a lack of purpose to post, write, or comment.  When our words and actions are not fueled with intention, we face muddled, indirect, and negative influences that can have a negative impact upon others. When our intentions are pure and incited by a purposeful reason, post can rise to a new level of honesty and authenticity. This parallels life situations in which people trust the truth in others. As human beings, we are more likely to connect with something we identify as purpose-driven. 

 The phrase “actions speak louder than words” guides human interaction in the real world. Virtually, our actions and words combine.  Our words become our “actions” when we tweet, comment, blog, etc, creating a rather complicated relationship for the common saying. 

Due to this new norm, the typical restraint of purposeful action has disintegrated. Premeditated thought about what we are actually saying and how it makes others feel has declined significantly.  What we could be asking ourselves when posting anything is “What is at the heart of this matter?” “How will it affect others?” And “Am I bringing an impactful presence to the platform I am posting to?”  If nothing fruitful or positive comes out of these questions, the post should likely not be shared. We can work towards cultivating positive actions through our words. 

No matter the setting, but perhaps even more crucial in a virtual setting, we believe that most people want to be purposeful, expressing their gifts and values in a manner of service towards others.  This takes practice and intention to integrate into interaction. Ultimately, the connection we can create strengthens when we start with and stay focused on our purpose and the meaning behind each interaction, online or not.  Connectivity with other humans holds the utmost importance in our society; efforts within any virtual sphere should be held with the same reverence as a real-world interaction.


The Purpose Backlash?


The question the author asks is: “How does an aspirational purpose stand up to the demands of daily business? For many firms, the answer is not very well.”

An intriguing and timely inquiry.

The Purpose Backlash

By Lisa Earle MacLeod
Bowling Green Daily News

Lately, all the cool kids have purpose. Progressive companies tout their purposes on their websites, and chief executives talk about the greater good impact their businesses have on their customers and the world.

The question is: How does an aspirational purpose stand up to the demands of daily business?

For many firms, the answer is not very well.

Research from EY Beacon Institute showed more than one-third of employees (35 percent) observed a disconnect between their organization’s stated purpose and its day-to-day actions. The researchers’ report cited a “persuasive overconfidence bias that leaves leaders viewing their company’s commitment to purpose far more optimistically than their employees.”

This is a dangerous space for a company to be. When leaders put forth an aspirational purpose, yet their day-to-day actions reek of the self-serving transactional, organizational backlash is often the result.

If a purpose-driven narrative is incongruent with daily behavior, it first shows in one of three places:

1. Sales teams

Nowhere is a disconnect between purpose and daily actions more obvious and more dangerous than in a sales team.

When a sales team believes leaders are simply giving lip service to a customer-focused purpose instead of truly living it, morale suffers. Salespeople become transactional. They’re more likely to cut corners, provide lackluster service and game their incentive plan than focus on lasting customer value.


The challenge for sales leaders is to combine the aspirational (purpose) with the urgent (quarterly targets). Transactional leaders focus on when and how they will collect revenue. Purpose-driven leaders address revenue collection but they also ask, “How will this sale help the customer?” They demonstrate a leadership commitment to lasting value that extends beyond internal sales targets.

2. Crisis

When the chips hit the wall, are we here for ourselves, or are we here for our customers? Think back to what happens in your own organization when revenue falls, or a market declines. Does the leadership team double down on serving customers? Or do they abandon purpose in favor of short-term thinking?

Purpose-driven leaders avoid this trap. They take fear off the table by pointing their teams toward something bigger than themselves. Transactional leaders are more likely to overemphasize internal-based reduction thinking. This creates silos and finger pointing in times of crisis.

3. Employee policy

If your noble purpose is to better the lives of your customers and your community, yet your internal policies and benefits reek of greed, don’t expect a pat on the back from your workforce.

Take Walgreens, for example. Its purpose is to “champion everyone’s right to be happy and healthy.” Yet, just last year they cut health insurance benefits for retired employees and continue to sell tobacco (unlike competitor CVS).

If the operationalization of purpose fails to address the three above areas, performance suffers. When employees spot a disconnect between what leaders say and what leaders do, they become disengaged and mistrustful.

Instead of benign, the organization seems inauthentic. Instead of indifference, employees feel anger.

As someone who works deeply in the purpose space and the sales space, I believe most executives are sincere in their desire to create a more purposeful work place.

The disconnect between purpose and daily actions does not happen by design, it happens by default. Bringing purpose to life requires new architecture and lexicon, one not second nature to most leaders, who have been training in a more financially oriented transactional system. If you want purpose to become part of your groundwater and get the benefits from it, look at your words and your actions.

– Lisa Earle McLeod is a leadership consultant and the author of several books. For more information on her company, visit McLeodandMore.com

Purpose Shared: A few words well-placed...

“A few words well-placed can really change the trajectory of somebody's career.”

Jon Favreau | 1966 - | American director, producer, actor

(Chef, Iron Man, Jungle Book, The Lion King, Swingers)

Could this be true?? Of course it is! Think about it. A few words, from the heart, well-placed, can change someone's LIFE. This is why the constant practice of remembering what is at the heart of the matter matters!

What if your purpose is to live from this commitment: your words matter, and your words create positive ripples around you (most that you will never know about).

3 examples just to start the conversation (I'm sure you have hundreds of your own):

  • Positive Coach Alliance centers on this philosophy: 5:1 praise:criticism. A mindset and a discipline that is worthy. (When have I taken time to notice how well I practice this?)

  • Guidance for a colleague: thoughtful, well-placed, well-timed guidance can offer a new lens on how they see themselves and create a new path for possibility and fulfillment.

  • With strangers: Imagine you're having a really bad day--at home, at work, you get a speeding ticket, you stub your toe--and the things of life pile up. Someone takes a moment to SEE you and thank you for whatever you're doing at the moment. The ripples inward and outward are infinite.

Be that person. Filled with purpose.

How to do that? What’s at the heart of the matter is presence to try to BE with those around us. Be present to them. What "tools" do you use to help you focus on your purpose and support being at the heart of the matter?

For us, the Art of Convening is the most potent way we know. Convening isn’t just about running a great meeting. Convening is about relationships and the desire to foster authentic engagement. Because you are always in relationship, you always have the opportunity to convene, to get to the heart of the matter. In fact, in our world, you are never not convening. Convening to foster relationships becomes the purpose.

For today, right now, what well-placed words will you offer?

“Enough About Me!”

Musings from Richard Leider
What Richard’s essay reminds us of is why leadership practices like The Art of Convening can make a difference in every setting…

[Next week: An Incomplete Manifesto of Purpose]


“Enough about me! What do you think about me?”


If you have the tendency to make every conversation about you, you might be a “conversational narcissist” and not even be aware. Fortunately, I’m becoming increasingly aware of my own “c.n.” tendencies. I’m not always the listener that I pretend to be with others. But, I’m working on it! How about you?

The term “conversational narcissist” was coined by sociologist Charles Derber and describes the trait of consistently turning a conversation back to yourself. A balanced conversation involves both sides but conversational narcissists tend to keep the focus on themselves. The tendency is so habitual, that they don’t even notice (or care) when the listener tunes them out or rolls their eyes.

Most likely you’ve had this experience at times. It’s also likely that you’ve done this as well, but weren’t aware you were doing it. In Derber’s book, The Pursuit of Attention, he reports on researchers observing how conversationalists competed for attention. He describes conversational narcissism as “the key manifestation of the attention-getting psychology in America.” And, he claims that “it occurs in informal conversations among friends, family, and co-workers!”

Do you know any conversational narcissists?

You most likely have at least a few people in your life who seem to talk about themselves ad nauseum, showing little curiosity about what you have to offer. Ever. They have an exaggerated sense of self-importance coupled with constant craving for attention and affirmation. Does anyone particular come to mind?

Conversational narcissists enjoy hearing themselves talk. It doesn’t matter if you talk about your greatest feat or greatest fear, it always comes back to them. Somehow, they always circle back to their story. They don’t intend to be rude. But, they blindly seem to get caught up in their own dramas.

Erich Fromm writes in The Art of Being – “Narcissism is an orientation in which all one’s interest and passion are directed to one’s own person: one’s body, mind, feelings, interests. For the narcissistic person, only he and what concerns him are fully real; what is outside, what concerns others, is real only in a superficial sense of perception… He is the world.”

Maybe they just lack EQ (Emotional Intelligence). Or, maybe they simply don’t care or have much curiosity about you even though they might politely pretend to be listening to you. After all, they wouldn’t want to be seen as totally self-absorbed.

Who me?

Here are three signs that you might have some conversational narcissist tendencies:

  1. You always seem to have a “better” story! Whatever they have done, you have done better. Too nice to tell you the truth, they might just avoid you altogether.

  2. You try to relate their story to something in your life! You wait for your opening to jump in and steal their thunder, bringing the conversation back to where it rightly belongs – on you!

  3. You don’t think people have much of interest to share. But, the truth is that you really just never let them! If you’re often leaving conversations thinking that others are boring, there’s a distinct probability that you just didn’t give them the space to get more than ten words in edgewise.

Are you interested or interesting?

Here’s a simple example of conversational narcissism:
Tom: “I didn’t get any sleep last night!”
Richard: “Really? I slept great! Have you considered getting a Select Comfort mattress? It’s really great… (“blah, blah, blah…”)

A conversational narcissist can quickly throw cold water on a conversation simply by not asking questions. Questions like: “Tom, were you worrying about something?” “Tell me more.” “What else is keeping you awake at night?” It’s fine to share things about yourself. But, the “golden rule” is simply to not jump in too early with your story.

You might genuinely feel that you’re interested. But, often the reality is that you were more interested in being interesting. And, most likely, you were really only catching keywords as you were thinking up your next line. In the meantime, you use filler words like: “Really?” “Oh, yeah!” “Uh-huh!” “Hmmm” “That’s interesting” or, “I get it!”

My story, Your story.

According to Derber, a healthy conversation is one where there’s a natural back-and-forth flow of ideas. It’s like a game of table tennis (ping pong), where the rhythm is steady with some pauses between points. Each player must contribute to keeping the ball in play.

In a healthy conversation, it would be a rhythm of “my story, your story.” If you keep pounding the ball for winners, it can throw the whole game off. A healthy conversation is cooperative, not competitive.

When I was in graduate school in counseling psychology, I memorized Carl Rogers #1 rule: “It’s the relationship itself that heals.” A counselor and a client must be in psychological contact. We must “be someone with” rather than “do something to” our client. Roger’s rule remains as relevant to me today as when it helped to shape the humanistic movement in psychology that he inspired back then.

Personally, I need to constantly remind myself that it isn’t my job to entertain people. I’m not their counselor. A great conversation isn’t the same as a speech or a lecture. It’s my job to both share and listen. And, I don’t want to miss the listening part!

Strategies for success.

So, what can you do to change the conversation? Here are three practices that I’m personally working on:

  1. You can’t change them! So, give up trying, now! Silence is golden. Conversational narcissists don’t like silence. So, become more comfortable with “waiting.” Fran Leibowitz says, “The opposite of talking is not listening. The opposite of talking is waiting.” How true for me. Here’s how I try “to wait.” I center myself by taking three deep breaths and then stay focused on my breathing (while maintaining eye contact).

  2. Don’t expect too much! Set a time limit and end the conversation at that precise time, no matter what! Practice saying “No.” No is a complete sentence. Master the decline by not offering support statements! Just smile and enjoy lunch!

  3. Become a conversational narcissist yourself! Really. Flip the conversation by asking this question: “Are you open to an assessment?” This usually stops people cold and opens the door for you to step in with your response, story, or point-of-view. It changes the game.

Richard Leider, founder of Inventure – The Purpose Company, is one of America’s preeminent executive-life coaches. He is ranked by Forbes as one of the “Top 5” most respected executive coaches, and by the Conference Board as a “legend in coaching.” Richard has written ten books, including three best sellers, which have sold over one million copies and have been translated into 20 languages. Repacking Your Bags and The Power of Purpose are considered classics in the personal development field. Richard’s PBS Special – The Power of Purpose – was viewed by millions of people across the U.S.

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Purpose Shared: Jonathan Brown, Public Allies

Mastering growth, igniting engagement, cultivating skills through a human-centered approach (enhanced by The Art of Convening) based on kindness and accountability.

As Site Director of Public Allies Twin Cities, Jonathan’s responsibilities span from managing growth to fundraising to managing compliance standards for Federal, State, and CNCS reporting, to last, but most important, providing leadership and skills development opportunity for Program Managers that represent Public Allies to the community.

Public Allies Twin Cities is a program of Pillsbury United Communities, and a proud member of the AmeriCorps national service network. The core team of Jonathan, Andrea Carroll-Franck and Francisco Guzman, along with allies that are embedded into local organizations, work with nonprofits, schools, or government agencies that need support building capacity, and are known for their people and program excellence.

Craig Neal, originator of the Art of Convening Trainings, shares his interview of Jonathan’s journey of service. If you look at Jonathan’s LinkedIn profile, you’ll see these words or intention consistently throughout: provide leadership and skills development, increased engagement and participation, maximize opportunity and capacity.

In addition to work with Public Allies, Jonathan also expresses his passion as Co-Founder, Music Producer, Vocal/Studio Performance Coach at FHG Studios, and Praxis Group MN, which focuses on building capacity for organizations and systems. He’s a busy man!

Enjoy the interview!

Comings & Goings @ Center for Purposeful Leadership


We are sad to say goodbye to Anna Patterson, our marketing and social media intern for the past year.

Anna has expanded our social media game, while keeping an eye on our marketing. Together, we have discovered the delights of using Craig’s beautiful sunrises/sunsets to connect in new ways via Instagram.  Along with this, Anna has influenced our Linkedin, Facebook, and Instagram presences and beyond!

Anna just completed her degree in Strategic Communication and Political Science and is on her way to Chicago to work for Coyote Logistics. We wish her the best of luck!


We are excited to welcome a new intern to the CPL team!  This summer, Olivia Bretzman will be joining our marketing team. Olivia just finished her freshman year at Providence College in Providence, Rhode Island. While there, she participates in volunteer programs and club figure skating as well as intense academics as she works towards her BA in English and a Spanish minor.

She is excited to begin her time here at the Center for Purposeful Leadership. Olivia’s passion for leadership and genuine connection fuel intention into her abilities in writing, social media, technology, and marketing.

Welcome back to Sarah Flores, a summer marketing and web redesign intern.

After graduating from Henry B. Tippie College of Business at the University of Iowa, with a B.B.A in Marketing Management with an interest in sustainability, as well as working in Denver for a year, we’re thrilled to have Sarah for the summer before she finds her next work in the Twin Cities.

During the summer Sarah will be actively looking in the job market for various positions in marketing - agency or departmental, business development programs as well as account executive positions.

We also welcome Charlie Francois to be point on our web redesign, working with integrating the various platforms we use.

We have a lot of ground to cover this summer! With these gifted people, we can continue to adjust to the rapidly evolving online world, and serve you in the best way possible!

Purpose Moment: at the Lake

Good morning from the lake.
You never know what is going to happen at the lake…

You never know what is going to happen at the lake… when I get down here in the morning after a beautiful rain. … And this—this piece of art, this piece of beauty.

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Purpose Moment: at the Lake

Good morning from the lake.
A sense of place, a sense of being, … the daily drumbeat.

I”m often asked, Why do I come every day? What is it that drives you to the lake every day?” I come to the lake at sIt’s a sense of place, a sense of being, a sense of belonging … i experience the daily drumbeat. it’s a practice. Thank you for practicing with me.

Purpose Moment at the lake #PurposeMoment #BdeMakaSka #beauty #pause #reflection #gratitude

Purpose Moment: at the Lake

Good morning from the lake.
Sharing the beauty…

I’ve been taking photographs here every day, every morning for seven years. So here I am, with you, my friends, those that wish to see beauty, as I do.

Last night I couldn’t sleep so I came down here and here I am with the ducks, and the geese, and you.

Purpose Moment at the lake #PurposeMoment #BdeMakaSka #beauty #pause #reflection #gratitude

Purpose Shared: Kiron Dawkins, Convener, Rapper, Minister, Servant Leader

A man of faith and music, convening in a life of service dedicated to alleviating veteran homelessness and poverty.

Kiron R. Dawkins, Purposeful Leader, Rapper, Minister, Executive Director of Supportive Services for Veterans and Families of a Hudson Valley Multi-service Nonprofit Organization, Husband, and Dad of five daughters has led a remarkable life. Craig Neal, originator of the Art of Convening Trainings shares his interview of Kiron's fascinating journey. From the streets of New York as a 3-sport athlete, All-city All-county designations in football and a City championship, to the lessons of being shot in college, an early career as a rapper leading to the ministry, all the way to serving homeless veterans with exceptional results. He shares how the Art of Convening training helped to transform his team and redefine true collaboration.

Enjoy the interview, then read on below for more.



WestCOP SVF Regional Coordinator: Kiron Dawkins, kdawkins@westcop.org
Kiron stands at the forefront of the rapidly changing non-profit industry through services innovation. He’s spent the last four years evangelizing an industry-wide shift of community-based collaboration to service returning Veterans and has helped position WestCOP as a leader in the space of critical time interventions with Veterans in housing crisis.

Throughout his 12-year tenure with WestCOP, Kiron has built a reputation for developing business strategies, incubating new program models, and building out programs in key areas. He also developed and manages the largest Supportive Services for Veterans and their Families Program (SSVF) and has brought nearly four million dollars to the region over the last three years with another near two million in year four to serve Veterans under this initiative. Embracing the core values of integrity, innovation, and growth, Kiron consistently ranks among the top 5% of WestCOP employees.

WestCOP: Support Services for Veterans and Their Families

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About SVF:

Far too many veterans are homeless in America. The SSVF Program helps veteran households (single veterans or veterans and their families) that are currently homeless or at risk of losing their housing. It provides temporary financial assistance and many other services that create stability.

It is estimated that between 130,000 and 200,000 veterans are homeless on any given night; three times that many veterans are struggling with excessive rent burdens and thus at increased risk of homelessness.

One out of every three homeless men who is sleeping in a doorway, alley or box in our cities and rural communities has put on a uniform and served this country.

By The Numbers…





A disproportionate amount – approximately 40% – of homeless men are veterans, even though veterans comprise only 34% of the general adult male population. The National Coalition for Homeless Veterans estimates that 400,000 veterans will experience homelessness during the course of a year and 97% of those homeless veterans will be male. A large percentage – 67% – served three or more years in the armed forces protecting our country, and 47% are Vietnam Era Vets.

Purpose Moment: at the Lake

What do you do when everything just really works out, … when all things fall into place…

Good morning from the lake. I was in New York City at Union Square for the 1st Earth Day celebration in 1070. We constructed a plastic dome powered by giant fans with air conditioners and named it the cleanest air in NY. Today's Purpose Moment video honors our relationship to the earth and all its beings.

Purpose Moment at the lake #PurposeMoment #BdeMakaSka# beauty #pause #reflection #gratitude

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The heart of the matter of being a Convener is always “who am I in relationship?”

“No one thing exists without another. Cause and effect are one. Thus, one thing cannot cause another without their being one or joined in relationship.”

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Purpose Shared: A Conversation on a Journey into Sacred Discourse

Cultivating Connection Across Conflict/Division

In this week’s Purpose Shared post, Art of Convening Train the Trainer graduate Tom McSteen brings us the story of a journey of life as a corporate lawyer with a growing awareness of larger global forces at play. Experiencing and being moved by the power of indigenous wisdom led to a global exploration of his own healing from a lifelong disability, to creating healing conversations through founding Sacred Discourse, an intentional, heart-centered framework for having relational and connected conversations between individuals, within groups, and across society. 

Tom’s explorations and trainings have taken him Minnesota to California to across Europe, South America.



Craig Neal, originator of the Art of Convening Trainings, interviews Tom on how The Art of Convening has impacted his life and informed his work in the world.

More links to Tom’s work:
Sacred Discourse - Facebook - YouTube

Purpose Moment


The mind that is not baffled is not employed.

The impeded stream is the one that sings.

The Real Work 

It may be that when we no longer know what to do
we have come to our real work, ...

and that when we no longer know which way to go
we have come to our real journey.

The mind that is not baffled is not employed.

The impeded stream is the one that sings.

~ Wendell Berry ~

(Collected Poems)


Purpose Shared: WS Merwin 1927-2019

W.S. Merwin, a true master in the art of poetry and a profound ecologist

We have admired and been touched by the poetry of W.S. Merwin for many years. The line excerpted from this poem is particularly poignant in the midst of tragic events.

“Youth” by W.S. Merwin


Through all of youth I was looking for you
without knowing what I was looking for

or what to call you I think I did not
even know I was looking how would I

have known you when I saw you as I did
time after time when you appeared to me

as you did naked offering yourself
entirely at that moment and you let

me breathe you touch you taste you knowing
no more than I did and only when I

began to think of losing you did I
recognize you when you were already

part memory part distance remaining
mine in the ways that I learn to miss you

from what we cannot hold the stars are made

— W.S. Merwin, from his Pulitzer Prize-winning book The Shadow of Sirius (2009), and found in the newly released collection The Essential W.S. Merwin (2017, Copper Canyon Press), used by permission of the publishers. 

Copyright © 2017 by W. S. Merwin.  

From the https://merwinconservancy.org/: It is with great sadness and an abiding reverence that we say goodbye to W.S. Merwin, a true master in the art of poetry and a profound ecologist. Beyond the extraordinary legacies of his poetic and botanical achievements, William has left us all deeply inspired to make the world around us a better place through word and deed, and to see and preserve the natural world as the exquisite poem it is.

The Merwin Conservancy inspires innovation in the arts and sciences by advancing the ideas of W.S. Merwin as fearless and graceful examples of the power of imagination and renewal.

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*"She’s an athlete. She excels at charging at obstacles and past them."

In this NPR story yesterday “Cancer Leads Athlete To Tough Choice”, the reporter's closing words spoke to my heart:

"She’s an athlete. She excels at charging at obstacles and past them.”

As I rediscover my outer athlete (Sprint Triathlete at age 60), my inner athlete has re-emerged, too. An unexpected bonus!

Qualities and capacities emerge, get honed, re-emerge: The ability to focus on what is important. The ability to pace myself. The ability to gauge and direct goals and milestones. The ability to literally crash my bike and get up again. The ability to help my body and mind re-heal and re-focus. The ability to cross the finish line, competing only with myself.

May we all find our inner athlete today.

Love to hear your thoughts.


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Your calling matters. You matter.

As Richard Leider notes, “Everything that exists has a purpose. We were born for a reason and we live in a purposeful world. Every one of us has unique gifts and a purpose to use those gifts to contribute value to that world.”


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Listening as an ultimate expression of connection and caring.

Authentic engagement is, simply, a genuine expression of what is true for us, and an attentive listening to what is true for another, or others. Why this simple human interaction often eludes us can be a matter of habit, distrust, faulty modeling, lack of attention, or fear.

From The Art of Convening: Authentic Engagement in Meetings, Gatherings and Conversations